https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/epx43m/actually-everyone-is-thinking-about-you > In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic, a woman in her 70s shared a life lesson in the chapter “Nobody’s Thinking About You.” As we get older, she said, we not only stop caring about what others think about us, but we eventually “realize this liberating truth—nobody was ever thinking about you, anyhow.” > “They aren’t. They weren’t. They never were,” Gilbert wrote. “People are mostly just thinking about themselves. People don't have time to worry about what you’re doing, or how well you’re doing it, because they’re all caught up in their own dramas.”